The Strength To Let Go

Introduction:

Welcome my friend,

Last week we introduced a third theme as part of our New Year Series.

In it we talked about how one of the reasons we've not met our goals in the years past is because of our unwillingness to let go of some of the very things that hold us back.

As we found out, these include our mindset, our habits, some patterns we repeat, some of our relationships and lastly some of our comforts.

We can see more on here as a refresher: (https://whereweareone.beehiiv.com/p/the-strength-to-let-go).

Today, we're going to pick up the conversation where we left it, understanding better why letting go, regardless of how difficult it can be, is the only option to bring us closer to our goals.

So that this year can finally be different from all the ones before it.

Discussion:

Having pointed out some of the things that we should let go and the respective reasons why in our last conversation, we can no longer continue to act unaware of them.

After all, once the truth becomes visible, it can no longer be unseen, and this awareness alone carries its own weight; the heavy question of how to really let go of these things because they're not good for us, even when we still want them.

This inner conflict is very real, entirely human, and far more common than most people admit.

Which is why we'd begin today's conversation by gently unpacking a few of these reasons why letting go usually feels so hard.

■ Why We Struggle to Let Go

It would be dishonest and ultimately self-defeating to pretend that we can simply snap our fingers and let go of things that have become woven into the fabric of who we are.

In trying to force the process we make it more painful and less sustainable, because real change rarely happens through brute willpower alone; it unfolds gradually, steadily, and with compassion toward ourselves.

Which means that, when we acknowledge these struggles, something powerful shifts as we stop fighting our feelings and instead give ourselves the grace, patience, and understanding needed to move through them gradually until the letting go becomes complete and natural.

In other words, we begin to see that our resistance usually stems from one or more of these core truths:

▪︎ The Pain Of Letting Go 

Shifting our mindset, breaking old habits, or interrupting longstanding patterns so we can adopt healthier ones often feels like tearing away a piece of our identity.

When we're used to thinking or behaving in certain ways, change for us is akin to the death of our old self and this isn't something a lot of us are willing to do.

Indeed, it hurts to walk away from something that we still enjoy as an act of discipline, because there's still a part of us that still craves the satisfaction that we still get from them.

However, we should be wise enough to value our goals, visions and purpose as more rewarding fulfillments than any of these.

After all, if these old patterns were truly good enough, we wouldn’t be carrying this quiet regret and sense of falling short of who we know we’re meant to become.

Similarly, it hurts to give up on our relationships, especially since it's not for a lack of love but for the simple reason that they no longer inspire us to call forth our best selves.

Here, letting go is painful because we still miss the companionship, we still treasure the good memories, and we still feel the pull of what once felt safe and familiar.

Yet, all these are painful sacrifices that must be made in order to achieve our goals, and they were never meant to be easy.

Which is why the reward; the life that becomes possible on the other side, is so profoundly worth it for everyone who finds the courage and strength to walk through the discomfort.

▪︎ The Dream We’ve Built Around Them

Letting go often feels so agonizing because we’re being asked to release not just the habits, patterns, or people themselves, but the beautiful hopes and vivid dreams we’ve carefully constructed around our “old self” and the life we imagined it would lead to.

Truth is, even when we’re traveling down the wrong path, we still carry a powerful, crystal clear vision of the reward we believe awaits us at the end.

This vision is what fuels our conviction, our persistence, our daily steps forward, even if we take them in partial blindness.

So now, even after we’ve awakened to the truth that this path doesn’t actually lead to our highest, healthiest, most fulfilling outcome, we hesitate, we cling.

Why?

…because these hopes and dreams have been our lifeline.

On the darkest, most exhausting days, they were the light that kept us going, the reason we didn’t give up entirely.

Yet, having honestly looked at the evidence and the reasons we must let go, we can quietly admit that the other side holds something far better; and we can’t know the fullness of that better life from this side of the decision.

So the only way to discover it is to step forward, by letting go, making the needed changes, and walking the new path long enough to experience what’s waiting there.

Here, it helps to recognize that much of our struggle to release these old dreams stems from a kind of immaturity; right now, we simply aren’t yet mature enough to fully see, feel, and trust the dreams of the new self we’re becoming.

However, there's a simple promise: as we commit to moving forward, as we make steady progress on the new path, the fog begins to lift.

The vision grows clearer, sharper, more vibrant.

The dreams of who we’re becoming start to feel more real and more compelling than the ones we’re leaving behind.

Little by little, those old dreams fade, not through force, but through being naturally outshone, until one day they’re gone entirely, replaced by something truer and more alive.

▪︎ The Invested Efforts 

The deeper we’ve poured ourselves, time, energy, emotion, money, identity, into a dream, a habit, a relationship, or a version of life, the more excruciating it becomes to walk away.

This is because it feels wildly expensive to “give it up” after everything we’ve already spent.

In these moments, it’s wise to remember a timeless truth: the farther you travel down the wrong road, the more costly the journey back becomes.

Staying longer, investing more, doubling down, won’t magically transform the wrong path into the right one. It only increases the price of eventually turning around.

Cutting our losses now, painful as it is, is almost always the kinder, wiser, and ultimately less expensive choice in the long run.

Redirecting that same energy, commitment, and resourcefulness toward the path that truly aligns with our highest good is how real transformation begins.

■ Healing From Letting Go 

As we’ve seen, letting go inevitably brings pain and a real sense of grief.

We’re mourning the loss of people, habits, dreams, or versions of ourselves that deep down, some part of us still longs to keep.

This is why healing becomes absolutely essential if we’re ever to fully step into the new version of ourselves.

The version of us that lives with a deeper, truer peace that satisfies, because we’ve come to accept, wholeheartedly, that letting go was not only necessary but good.

Once we become this person, something remarkable happens: our growth begins to accelerate.

Here, because we now have clearer discernment and hard earned wisdom, we make better decisions, take wiser actions, and live with our priorities properly aligned.

We’re no longer chasing shadows; we’re walking steadily toward the quality of life we truly desire, one consistent, faithful step at a time.

This is the path that leads to lasting fulfillment.

■ How To Let Go 

For those of us who are believers, once we surrender our lives to Jesus Christ, letting go stops being optional, it becomes a necessary part of the journey.

Yet, He doesn’t demand that we do it in our own strength; instead, He gently, patiently, and progressively transforms us into people who truly reflect our new identity in Him.

Think of the prodigal son returning home in filthy rags.

Before he could fully belong in his father’s house, he had to be washed, clothed in fresh garments, and adorned with the robe, ring, and sandals that marked him as a son again, so that he no longer looked or felt out of place.

In the same way, when we open our hearts to God, His Holy Spirit begins a beautiful work inside us.

He convicts us lovingly of the things that no longer fit, who we were versus who we’re becoming, so that, over time, we turn new pages and leave old chapters behind.

The good news is this: we don’t have to arrive at His feet already perfect, cleaned up, or “together.”

All He asks for is willingness.

That’s where the transformation begins.

Summary:

Every true victory demands sacrifice, and settling for less is simply the price we pay when we refuse to make that exchange.

Indeed, I hope that our conversation these past couple weeks on this same topic have been worth your time, and have spoken to your heart in a way that brings lasting change.

See you next week!

Master Apprentice.

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