Moving On

Introduction:

Welcome my friend,

It's another weekend to hang out together, and it's good that we're here for it.

How have you been?

The last time we were here was Easter weekend, so hopefully it presented you with a good opportunity to take a nice break.

Here, it also meant we used the opportunity to remind ourselves a few things from the Good Friday story.

However, now that's done, we'd be reverting back to our usual conversations, starting with this one on moving on - as we look to share more insights on some challenges of healing.

Discussion:

To heal something is to repair, restore or correct whatever has gone wrong with it.

Which means that for something to need healing it's been broken or damaged; yet, still retains the quality to improve from what it is.

Here, that “something” is the individual.

Sometimes in life things happen to us that leave us disappointed and broken hearted so that we feel like our hearts need mending.

From the death of loved ones, a failed relationship, a huge financial loss, a poor mistake at the detriment of our business image or personal reputation, finding ourselves disgraced out of a position, suffering betrayal and other such things.

These types of things happen that leave us broken.

Truth is, there comes a time when we'd experience life in a way that creates emotional wounds as if our heart was cut through with multiple knives; even as we struggle to make sense of the entire situation or deal with any shame or regret for where we now find ourselves.

This is the period we find the least joy in the world and also when we have to make the tough choice of deciding our response.

Whether to pick ourselves up and move on or allow ourselves to get overwhelmed by sadness and self pity.

■ Why It's Difficult To Move On 

To be broken is to witness a depressing kind of emotional pain such that zaps all our physical strength as we lack the motivation to get on with life.

This is a different kind of hurt.

For instance, when someone we love dies suddenly we can experience a kind of pain that steals all our happiness so that we no longer find reason to continue life in the same way.

Here, we choose to remain miserable because there's no need to get better if “we're still going to die” like our loved one before us.

This is a dark and dangerous place to slip into and when we do this what follows is that we begin to adapt all kinds of self sabotaging behaviours that ensure we remain down or even get worse.

It's the same when a relationship fails.

Many times people struggle to move on because they continue to hold on to old memories, clinging on to the past with hope that maybe someday things can get back to what it used to be; even when there's nothing to indicate such.

This is self deceit.

When a relationship becomes unhealthy, it has run its course.

When a person continues to show us who they've become, we should no longer hold on to what they used to be or what we think they can yet be.

These two instances show us that the first thing that stops us from moving on is the decision to move on itself and the willingness to follow through.

The second one being that we're afraid of change which is why we cling to something even when we're convinced it's no longer good for us.

Which then leads us to the next one - the effort that has gone in.

When we've invested so much in a particular place whether business or relationship, it becomes harder to take the loss and walk away because of everything that it already cost us.

Until we accept that it's okay to accept our mistakes, quit and be redirected, we'd continue to waste effort in the wrong direction.

■ The Challenges Of Moving On 

The difficult part of healing is the grief and loneliness that comes from it.

When we move on from a person or place because we're better off for it, we grieve the loss of them, and the death of the plans and dreams we built around them.

This can be painful because it means missing a part of us we're already so used to.

Consequently, these losses make us feel lonely, having withdrawn and stepped back from everything else to reconnect with and rediscover ourselves.

This is a process and once we understand it that way, we give ourselves the grace to patiently get better gradually over time as we continue to work on ourselves rather than try to force it.

■ How To Move On 

Healing requires the inner work of learning, unlearning and relearning good and bad habits accordingly.

It's intentional and happens only when we become aware of our true potential outside of the hurt, pain, damage and limitations we've placed on ourselves.

This is why there's a spiritual side to it as we learn to see ourselves how God sees us, masterpieces for His work.

It's this awareness that allows us to avail ourselves for His restoration.

Truth is, nothing outside of ourselves can stop us from realizing God's plan for our lives and everything we lose on the way to that we'd surely get even better.

■ The Reward Of Moving On 

The purpose of brokenness is transformation as we make a beautiful whole piece from the broken parts of ourselves, now firmly moulded by the painful circumstances we faced.

Pain builds our character, teaching us empathy and humility as we learn to walk in other's shoes.

This is how we become better from what we face.

When we let go for what isn't good for us, we make room for what's best to come in.

When we leave the past behind we give ourselves the chance to use today to prepare for the kind of future we desire.

Summary:

One of man's superpowers is his ability to choose how to respond to his circumstances.

When faced with the same challenge both the one that thinks he can or can't get out will be right.

The difference being that one will be more willing to persevere until they do!

When we're no longer satisfied with the life we have, we're challenged to find the courage to move on from it.

Doing it intentionally, diligently and committedly overtime.

Master Apprentice.

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