Giving: A Proof Of Love

Introduction:

Welcome my friend,

Happy Thanksgiving weekend if you've been celebrating!

Otherwise, happy new day of thanksgiving, as we look around us to acknowledge the many things to be thankful for.

Truly, while setting aside a day of Thanksgiving affords us the opportunity to do so communally with family and friends, on a personal note, being thankful should be a lifestyle.

Especially because gratitude has its numerous benefits.

For instance, a thankful heart is a happy heart, finding joy in our good fortunes rather than being saddened by the other things that haven't gone our way.

Which also makes it an optimistic heart, seeing possibilities for what will be, from what has been, instead of letting what is, make us fear, which is the foundation we lay before any failure.

So, Happy Thanksgiving my friend!

Today we're grateful for life, the entirety of it.

Discussion:

If we're being real, it's not every time that we get a gift from someone that the intention behind it is genuine.

More often than not, there's an expectation, an agenda.

So that once we accept, we become open to do their bidding, having been put in a situation where we now owe them something in return.

This is why many folks give, and for them, it's normal to become angry when they don't get their way.

Which makes it wise for us to reject such gifts, knowing that eventually we're going to be asked to repay them; an expectation we'd be unwilling to meet.

Indeed, to act like we can't sense the intentions behind certain gestures is self deceit, and when we continue to benefit over time, we begin to accept this indebtedness ourselves.

This is how we compromise on our values.

■ What It Means To Give Genuinely 

The basis of all genuine interactions is love because that's the only reason we'd be willing to care deeply for someone else as ourselves.

All genuine love inspires us to share what we have with the ones we love because, when we do, it's usually for some of these following reasons;

▪︎ We Give To Share An Experience 

It's normal for us to have this compelling feeling to extend an experience to a loved one because we know it'll make them feel good.

These may be simple things like a nice meal, a new place, an exciting activity or other such things.

This is just love in action and the ones that inspire us to behave like this, are the ones we truly love.

▪︎ We Give To Lighten A Load 

No one watches on as their loved ones continue to struggle with things that they can otherwise help out with.

This is another reason to give.

When we show up, come through, or assist loved ones, we do so willingly because we no longer want to see them struggle with such things.

Love inspires us to take the responsibility to lighten a person's load, because we want to bring them ease, sharing some of these challenges that weigh them down.

▪︎ We Give To Show Our Presence 

In sharing in other's burdens, we show that we can be relied upon, which can give them the confidence that they're not alone.

When a person can draw strength from others, they go on to achieve things they wouldn't normally do alone.

■ Some Valuables To Give Those We Love 

The most valuable things that we can give those we love are mostly intangible.

Some of which include;

▪︎ Opportunity 

Love motivates us to offer opportunities to others because we're enthusiastic about their success as we are about ours.

Consequently, this makes us invested in their self development, because we understand that it provides them with the means to earn more by themselves, instead of just looking to help out with some stipends from time to time.

When we see it this way, we'd begin to appreciate and value those of our friends who loved us enough to teach us how to fish rather than merely give us some to eat.

▪︎ Trust 

Sometimes all we need is that one person that loves us enough to give us the benefit of doubt, when everyone else thinks otherwise.

This is a powerful gift.

Quite often, we've come across those stories where someone is wrongfully accused or convicted of a crime they didn't commit.

Yet one of their loved ones, who rightly believes in their innocence, continues to fight their course until they're acquitted.

This is an invaluable gift.

When all around us is crashing down, we just need that one person that believes in us to hold our hands, until we rise again.

▪︎ Commitment And Understanding 

If we mean so much to a person that they can go out of their way to come through for us, they should also mean so much more to us that we can easily understand them, or even make excuses for them, when they don't.

When we expect others to show up for us but don't show them the same grace when they don't, we only show ourselves to be using them.

This isn't love.

Love is a healthy two way relationship of commitment and understanding with each person ready and willing to take up either role.

■ What We Shouldn't Give Those We Love 

Sometimes this urge to give those we love can see us offer them things that can be detrimental to them in the long run.

We should be mindful so that we can guard our hearts against it.

For instance, love makes us provide a safe landing for those we love as we continue to cover up for their wrongdoings rather than call them out or discipline them.

Love makes us enablers of their behavior when it pushes us to readily come through for them as a saving shield from the consequences of their actions.

This isn't good for them.

As parents or other adults of influence in a child's life or as good friends to one another, we have a responsibility to be courageous enough to confront them with the truth of how their actions hurt them.

We must also resist that urge to bail them out at times, because many times, retribution can be the only way to learn discipline.

■ The Ultimate Gift Of Love 

No love is greater than the one that motivates another to give their life for someone else.

This is what Jesus Christ did for us, and in that we find the proof of His love.

When we accept this by believing in Him, we invite Him into our lives, and always, He does come bearing other good gifts.

Love, joy, peace, health, fulfillment, He freely gives us all these to enjoy here and eternal life for the hereafter.

All we just have to do is believe in Him.

Thankfully, this implies to each of us without exemptions, regardless of what we've done in the past; and what's more?

The worse we've done, the better we're fitted for His works.

After all, what better way to convince others than show them what awesome transformation He can bring to a life that's already been written off?

Summary:

In most relationship dynamics there's always going to be someone that gives more than the other person.

This doesn't necessarily signify less love on the other's part.

Love makes us readily compliment each other, accepting what we've been given because it's enough for us and willingly giving what we have.

This is how we thrive together.

Goodbye my friend and see you next week!

Master Apprentice.

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